Bleaugh. It’s Monday again and it’s time to get back to work. Some weeks are great; projects are firing on all cylinders, everyone’s getting on just fine and the sun is shining. Then there are other times when you are just not in the mood; people are carping about each other, deadlines are being missed or you feel you’re just not being listened to.
Here’s a couple of suggestions that may help life feel a bit better – even if you only incorporate one or two (and everyone can incorporate one or two of the suggestions below), it could be the difference that makes a difference.
- Wake up earlier: Enjoy the start of your day; enjoy a leisurely breakfast, have a chat with your housemate/partner/child, maybe even walk to work (if it’s too far away, you could get off a tube station early and walk or take a circuitous route to the station). And, unless you need to be informed for you get to work, read the paper on the way home. Newspapers are riddled with bad news/gossip – there is rarely anything uplifting in a newspaper.
- Think about what makes you happiest at work – make a list of the things that you have control over and plan those things to happen during your working day; if it’s to make people smile, leave your desk a couple of times a day to make someone’s day; if it’s decent cup of coffee (as opposed to the machine coffee available) then take time out to pick up a coffee or make a decent one yourself; if it’s to take time out to see daylight/think/meditate/talk to the family/feel the sun – just plan it into your day.
- Envisage your day as a great/successful/fun day at work. If you prepare for your day in this way, you will enhance the way you approach your day and so the mood of your day.
- Choose to be happy! The only person who can ‘make’ you unhappy is you – conversely, the greatest supporter of your happiness is you. Just decide to be happy.
- Plan your day: check your diary and plan your day so that you can incorporate ‘me’ (or even ‘other people’) time into it – and to ensure that there will be no nasty surprises.
- Plan your future: People who make plans achieve more than people who don’t. Think about your short/medium/long term goals and plan your development/work/actions aligned to those – and consider how you can break down the barriers.#
- If you mean no, say no. Don’t accept work that you don’t have the capacity for and then become resentful, under pressure of work or lose sight of your work:life balance.
Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies – Nelson Mandela.
- Acknowledge your emotions; fear/anxiety/unhappiness. Feel those emotions , then let them go and then take rational action.
- Say hello and smile at each colleague you meet.
- Avoid negative people/gossip/water cooler conversations – however intriguing gossip is, it only introduces negativity into your day.