Whether you think that you can or you can’t, you’re usually right – Henry Ford
Do you ever have a day when you’re not looking forward to meeting someone, or you don’t think you’re going to achieve something? The ‘as if’ frame is used in coaching to give clients a technique that will help them to work through their own resistance, stuck position and limiting beliefs.
Acting ‘as if’ assists people to consider more fully the possibilities, options and ideas which they may previously have considered beyond the scope of their abilities or the realms of possibility. It allows them to suspend the limiting beliefs which have a negative impact on their action and behaviour and allows them to really believe in a positive outcome.
By trying on different beliefs, people challenge their model of the world (see previous blog Five Things to Remember When Reading a Map) and push past their limiting beliefs in the direction of more supportive beliefs.
For instance, I worked with a client that had a networking event to attend and was concerned that he was going to appear too anxious to achieve his networking objectives on the night. We talked through how he would like that event to pan out. The word that kept coming up as he talked about his ideal scenario was fun. He wanted to have fun at the event by getting to know the other attendees and by being able to access the curiosity he felt about what they were up to.
Having worked on this ideal scenario, when he attended the event, my client acted ‘as if’ he was about to have some fun – which he did, and he achieved a really decent outcome – as a result? No, he was always capable of achieving his outcome, but previously he had been surrounded by limiting beliefs that were limiting his abilities.
NB: visualisation is a powerful tool; not only does it prime your brain for success, it also helps you to see the smaller steps you need to take to reach your end goal. I’ll come back to it in a later blog.
We can have more than we’ve got because we can become more than we are – Jim Rohn
Trouble In Mind – Janis Joplin