If you think you are beaten, you are.
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you’d like to win, but think you can’t,
It’s almost certain you won’t.
If you think you’ll lose, you’ve lost.
For out of the world we find
Success begins with a fellows will.
It’s all in the state of mind.
If you think you’re outclassed, you are.
You’ve got to think high to rise.
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster person.
But sooner or later the person who wins
Is the one who thinks they can. – Anon
As a coach, I spend much of my time with people who are thinking about or working towards future objectives. However, occasionally, I work with people who are fending off a future, that they see being full of doom and disaster. I hope your future focus is positive, but if you too are seeing monsters around the corner, here are a couple of things you may want to consider:
- You influence what happens. If you say you can’t do something, then the probablity is, that you won’t. Happily, the opposite of course is also true. If you approach someone in a happy frame of mind, you elicit the same response, right? Well, you can do that to the future.
- The future won’t be like the past. I’ve never met anybody who had to hesitate to tell me what that future looks like, because they’ve been somewhere like this before. Of course, we can’t predict the future and every situation is unique, so most of the time they face an entirely different reality. If you’re too settled on a vision of what’s most likely, odds are that you won’t do nearly enough to prepare for those alternative futures in which you are even more likely to actually end up living.
- Letting your thinking snowball. Thoughts trigger other thoughts, and if your initial thought carries even a hint of insecurity or worry, subsequent thoughts can explore it and magnify it until you’re completely agitated. You can end up feeling in absolute despair, just from idle thinking. The next time you think everything is going to be hopeless, pay attention to how much ‘evidence’ you quickly collect to substantiate that. Really?
- Attempting to deal with the future. Trying to solve future problems, or even come to terms with them, is a recipe for disaster. The future often appears in our minds as a host of real problems which require immediate attention. No matter what thoughts you have about a problem, it can only remain unsolved until it actually happens.
“Worry is a misuse of the imagination.” Dan Zadra
Whatever difficulties you think you have, they aren’t real till they’re in the room with you, and you won’t know what form they’ll take until they are there. When you think about a problem at any time you can’t actually act on, you suffer. So if it’s in the future, don’t treat it like a problem. Problems only happen in the moment, in real time. Consider possibilities, but don’t look for problems. Any anxiety is created by our thoughts. – it’s our thoughts that create our emotions, so think be kind to yourself and create a beautiful day.