Are you sure you’re in control?

Are you in control of your outcomes? Are you the only person in charge of your results? To achieve what you want, you need to know what you want and for it to be self-maintained. In other words, it must be completely under your control and not reliant on other people for you to be able to make the outcome a reality.

An outcome such as getting appointed to a specific project or role relies on other people – who may, for instance, decide that you are not the right person for the job or have already identified another candidate. It is not self-maintained.

Similarly an outcome expressed as “I am going to make them like happy” is not possible – because the only person who can make anyone happy is themselves.

The way to express a self-maintained, well-formed outcome is to say “I am going to be the best I can be” or “I am going to do the best I can.” These outcomes are positive and are capable of being achieved with the resources you currently have available to you. You will be able to maintain these outcomes solely through your own efforts.

What else to you think is essential for a well-formed outcome? Let us hear your comments.

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